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My very first penfriend was Betty Marie Jensen from a small place called Nibe, Denmark. I tried to find her on the internet, sent a letter to her old address. No luck. All I know is her name, old address and birthdate. I have her photos, but I don't want to publish them on the internet for her privacy. Is there any government agency besides postal service who can forward my letter to her?
Recently, I tried to revive this hobby. Unfortunately, IYS is closed now. I found a few good penpals on GlobalPenfriends.com Also tried several other websites like Interpals, Penpal World etc. but they are full of scammers.
Letters take time to be delivered
The farther away your pen pal lives, the longer it will take to reach them. Why rush through replies? Make your letter be worth the wait!
Interesting concept, and I’m glad the magic was there for the two of you.
Words and ideas are meaningful. Finding a physical artifact from a far off place in the mailbox; seeing the stamps, markings, smudges, and other evidence of its journey; opening the envelope; and reading the other’s handwritten words add another dimension. Similarly, holding a paper book is a different experience, so I suspect that more than nostalgia is at work.
how sort of perversely lovely (i say it in an admiring manner), to meet in a gloriously old-fashioned manner on such a modern platform!
love it.
Fast forward to today, and the cost of sending an ordinary paper letter in my country is now 3€. Lots of people would be reluctant to pay that time and time again, and forget about juggling a large number of pen-pals as people commonly did back in the day.
But I don't think a high cost of sending a letter is much of a hindrance if you pay it for social contacts. If you look at having a pen pal as a socializing event, then it's hard to beat how much it costs to go to a bar, concert or sports game etc.
While a domestic pen pal probably isn't uncommon, the programs I recall tended to match you with someone international.
Still, is $1.70 (or even the 3 euros mentioned above) really that much to pay every week or two in order to maintain a meaningful friendship? An espresso drink costs more than that in many places.
Of course, email is free, so I could understand someone preferring to have a penpal relationship that way.
But if letters are just a few cents to send, more people are willing to try it because it's the cost of pocket change that won't even get them a drink from a vending machine.